When I saw this was the topic of this month’s Spanking Round Table discussion, I couldn’t help myself. I had to chime in. What is it about anal–whether for pleasure or punishment–that hits such a trigger for me? And not just for me, but if it’s a discussion, then obviously it’s a trigger for other people as well. Let’s face it. It’s considered by many to be taboo. It’s considered a naughty act that most people won’t admit to…or if they do admit to it, will downplay. “Oh, well I tried it once…it wasn’t for me.” or “Hell no, I don’t do that.” It can be humiliating, slightly uncomfortable to downright painful, and probably the most intimate thing you could ever do with or to your partner, and that right there is probably what makes it a great punishment.
It can take many forms, from rectal temperature taking to butt plugs to anal sex, the punishment is in the mortification of the person who has to bend over and submit, knowing their partner is seeing, touching, and disciplining the “No Zone”. Which isn’t to say that anal sex can’t be fun. Of course, it can! But when it’s sexy and loving, then it’s just kinky good fun enjoyed by all. When it’s used in conjunction with words such as “naughty” or “bad boy/girl” or phrases such as “You were warned…” or “Obviously, I need to do more than talk before you’ll listen…” or “You brought this on yourself…” then that takes it to a whole new level of stomach-tensing, pussy-clenching (or dick hardening, I don’t judge) dread that at the same time wars with excitement. If you’re anything like me, you’d much, much, much rather be experiencing this as a “good girl” not a “naughty” one. When it’s “naughty”, it can be so much harder to bear. You want to hide your face. You can’t apologize enough, and as the discomfort ratchets each grade higher, so does the remorse.
Look at all the different forms such punishments can take. This is by no means a full list, but only what I can think of at this late at night right before the blog is supposed to post (bad girl, I know).
Using a rectal thermometer to take your temperature because you cannot be trusted to do it orally like a big boy or girl.
Having your system flushed with hot soapy water (or worse, cold water) or an old timey solution of milk and molasses. Often used a precursor to other anal activities, let the cramping and bloating begin.
Not only do you have the sensation of having something inserted inside you, but Holy Hannah, the burn! This is awful on its own but used in conjunction with spanking…OW!
Small, medium or large, ridged, veined, penis-shaped, bumpy or spiked, beads of gradually increasing sizes, varying materials including metal, jeweled or plain, hooked, and let’s not forget animal shaped, with lube or without, how long will you have to wear it….decisions, decisions. The only thing that’s certain is when you feel that slow stretch start to happen, you’re going to feel every inch of it going in and it’s going to be in there for a while.
Ben Gay, Vicks, Peppermint Oil, or other burning ointments, lubes and oils:
Pretty self-explanatory. If you use these, you use them at your own risk. So read up on the pros and cons and, if you use any of these on your submissive, I sincerely hope you’ve also had the balls to first experiment on yourself so you know what you’re putting them through. Nuff said.
Dildos, strap-ons, vegetables…again, I don’t judge. This doesn’t sound like much of a punishment, until you factor in the size of what’s being inserted…or the material. For instance, a glass dildo takes on a whole new level of hell after it’s been, say, put in a bucket of ice water for a while.
Something happens to sex between consenting lovers when it’s being used to amplify discipline. Again, for me it’s that delicate mixture of pleasure and discomfort, of intense mortification and the mental head-space of knowing this is happening to correct a misbehavior. Not because I’ve been good. Not to give me pleasure. But because I’m being punished. This is a powerful head trip. It’s not just physical–although often a level of discomfort is used to amplify the disciplinary factor.
Do I enjoy anal punishments? No, I do not. Do I get them? Upon occasion, yes, I do. For all of the reasons outlined above, I will say this: I much prefer reading or writing about them in fantasy erotica. For some reason, it’s so much hotter when it happens to the heroine of a story than when it’s happening to me in real life.
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